Why does it feel like we have to fight to be heard? Why are we trying to use the same tools that men use to elicit strength, understanding, and change? Weapons don’t work. It’s time to try something different and more effective.

We’re using so much energy in making our own way and being superwomen that most of us are exhausted and alienated. How can we find our voices when we have no energy left? I think one of the keys is to be around other women, and to set down our heavy load of “doing it all.”

Feeling so competitive with other women might be necessary if there were one man to 20 women, all...